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Can You Stop Obsessive Thoughts With Cooking?

One good friend of mine said I could be suffering from a minor OCD. Well, who am I to argue with her, as she has a background in psychology. While I’m no certified psychologist myself, a quick Google search shows Obsessive Compulsive Disorder as  “a mental health condition where a person has obsessive thoughts and compulsive activity”. Whether I’m actually suffering from OCD, I’m definitely not going obsess over it.

But I think I definitely have obsessive thoughts. In fact, writing the title of this article has brought million of thoughts flying through my mind that I had rewritten the first 2 paragraphs for the 10th time.

“What if this post turned out to be the worst?” ,

“How do I know that methods that work for me, work for others too?”,

“I must be crazy writing about this”.

Yes, I think a case of OCD has been confirmed?

Well anyway, I guess the FIRST METHOD of stopping obsessive thoughts is…

Stop the thinking and start doingStop Obsessive Thoughts

The only problem is that obsessive thoughts are like dark vortexes. When you start obsessing, the thoughts are pulling you down and fast. You wouldn’t even know that you are obsessing, until a certain time. By then, you have probably depleted all of your positive energy.

But once you know that you are obsessing and you don’t feel like doing anything productive, you MUST force yourself to START doing something useful that creates positive energy. Don’t be the slave to your negativity.

When you start doing something useful (cooking, washing up, organize your work stuff, or writing a post like this), you would soon find the momentum of your action will keep those obsessive thoughts away.

Personally, I found cooking as a good way to keep obsessive thoughts away. When you are focussed on the recipes, ingredients and creating good food either for yourself or your loved ones. When you hands are busy creating delicacies, there is just no room for obsessive thoughts at all.

I do not know the scientific explanation for this but cooking has definitely been my favorite way to stop obsessive thoughts.

Set a time limit (Until then, obsess away)

Stop Obsessive ThoughtsWhen you are obsessing over some problems, it really feels like you are rotting inside. You lost your morale, motivation and basically, you just feel like sitting there and keep having repetitive irrational thoughts of your problem. These thoughts are eating up your spirit bit by bit.

It can even go to the extent of self-denial as you would rather use the time for obsessive thinking rather than fixing the problems itself.

Well, if you think it’s hard to defeat the evil of obsessive thoughts in an open battle, you can try to set a limit for yourself. Something like “OK, I’m only going to think in this way until the end of today“. And make this a visible reminder the moment you woke up the next day.

The moment you woke up the next day is the best way to stop the obsessive thoughts pattern. Go for a jog, get something working. Break the pattern, build the momentum and you will be out of it.

Change your expectation, and stop comparing.

Well, as you see, I was worrying too much about whether this post will be better or worse than my previous ones. That really plunged me into a vicious cycle of obsessive thoughts. But once I realized it, I thought why not I just concentrate on finishing this post and let the worries be secondary.

As I changed my way of thinking, I had a different goal and it has nothing to do with doing better or worse. Does it work? Well, here I am. Writing smoothly without any interruption and rewrites.

But for these 3 methods to have any chance of working, it is very important to realize and be aware that you are in the spiral of obsessive thoughts. I think you would be aware of your negative thought pattern eventually, but the sooner you become conscious of it, the faster it is to get out of the cycle.

Depending on the nature of the issues, some people could be having obsessive thoughts for days without even being aware of it. I have to say I will tend to obsess about issues for a lengthy period. Until I’ve practiced this for the past 4 weeks.

Mantra… Seriously, to stop obsessive thoughts with mantra??

You must be thinking of some Yoga or Meditation mantra that I practiced in some meditation class. A good guess… but that’s not what it is. Here’s what happened…

Stop Obsessive Thoughts4 weeks ago, I’ve picked up an online course by T Harv Eker, The Spiritual Law Of Money. (Before you go what has Spiritual or Money got to do with obsessive thoughts, please bear with me a little). Yes, the mantra is actually required as part of the ‘homework‘ for the course. It’s basically repeating mantras such as “I create wealth with joy and balance“, 25 times a day.

Yeah.. I know, I don’t doubt you if you feel I must be out of my mind for doing that. I thought T Harv Eker himself was nuts when he suggested doing that in the program. Anyway, it wasn’t until a few lessons in the program that he explained that reciting the mantra is one way to break our old habits. (If we want a new life, we need to get rid of the old).

If you really want to know more about T Harv Eker, here’s an interesting article on Why Most People are Not Living The Life That They Want.

Breaking Obsessive Thoughts Pattern

To keep things short, I was surprised that when I went into some obsessive thinking mode after around 4 weeks into his program, there is a consciousness that managed to whisper through that I need to stop this obsessive thinking right here and now.  I thought it was a fluke until it happened a few more times and I got to snap out of the obsessive thought pattern not long after it began. (I was having an extra challenging week).

Well, if you too fall victim to obsessive thought, I recommend trying the methods I’ve mentioned above. There is a chance that it would work for you too, and I hope it does too. Do share me with me your thoughts about dealing with obsessive thoughts in the comment section below.

Kenny Lee
 

I am an engineer-turned-writer who once struggle with social anxiety. After overcoming problems inflicted by low self-esteem and the fear of interaction, I realize the need for taking a holistic approach in developing our mind. I'm sharing my experience, remedies, and techniques that interest me in my quest to be a better self.

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lifebeginswithyourhealth - July 23, 2016

I think many people have these thought problems without even knowing it, our diets I feel is a cause of many of our anxiety related issues today.

I think your article is a very good article, you did a fine job sharing and explaining this condition and ways to overcome it as well.

What do you feel causes your thoughts and actions with this conditon?

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    Kenny Lee - July 24, 2016

    Hi,

    Thanks for reading. I believe there could be many factors leading to obsessive thinking. I think stress and anxiety being two of the main issues. While it’s hard to trace the root cause but it is totally possible to break out of the obsessive thoughts with determination and awareness at the right time.

    Kenny

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Zarina - July 24, 2016

Hi Kenny,

I definitely enjoyed reading your post. I love personal development topics and this is an important aspect that you touched upon. The way you write about OCD … are you sure you are not in psychology yourself? 🙂 Anyway, I think even if you had the OCD, you definitely redirected your energy into writing a quality content – high five on that!

Sometimes I struggle with obsessive thoughts too – I am so ambitious and I just can’t stop my brain from thinking over and over again – what helps is actually doing the work. Actually redirecting the energy where it needs to go. So I agree with your point that we must stop thinking and start doing.

It seems that we are very like-minded, so I am looking forward to reading more articles from you!

Zarina

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    Kenny Lee - July 25, 2016

    Zarina,

    Thank you for your time reading this. Does it take for one to have a degree in psychology to be IN psychology? If it doesn’t then perhaps I would say I am. Psychology, spirituality, mind development and similar topic interests me. The wonderful thing about personal development is that we can apply the theories on ourselves and witness the changes in our thought patterns and growth. Thanks again.

    Kenny.

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Eric - July 24, 2016

Hi Kenny Lee

Excellent article! Very informative, that is right “change your expectation and stop comparing” these big words are the reason why people has obsessive thoughts. For my opinion experimenting something can help to stop obsessive thoughts also. I just want to say “out to your comfort zone” and try something else, this could be help as well to not become obsessive. Thanks for sharing!

Cheers
Eric

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    Kenny Lee - July 25, 2016

    Eric,

    Good idea on trying on some experiment. Maybe because when we are trying something new, we do not have any expectation for the result. And because of that we can enjoy the whole process instead of stepping into obsessive thinking.

    Kenny

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Sam - July 24, 2016

I can do the same thing myself. It is very easy for me to obsess over things I need to do and get so caught up obsessing and making lists of what I need to do that I never actually get anything substantial done! Have you noticed that while trying to not obsess that your posts are faster to write?

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    Kenny Lee - July 25, 2016

    Sam,

    Exactly, instead of wondering how my post will turn out to be. It actually removes some sort of block. And the words just flow through my fingers. Wonderful isn’t it.

    Kenny

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tommy - July 24, 2016

NIce post. It’s mindfulness really. When you a fully present and focused on cooking you are right there anchored in the present and all that exists is that moment right now. Most people don’t understand that they are in control of their mind and not the other way round. I have been practising transcendental meditation and have found that a great way to regain control over your mind and will power.

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    Kenny Lee - July 25, 2016

    Tommy,

    I never thought of that. You actually shine the light for me. Maybe we have underestimated the power of living mindfully. Very insightful feedback. Thanks.

    Kenny

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Matt - July 24, 2016

Incantations – Or mantras are a great way to bring things into your life that you need. It shifts old beliefs into new ones by effecting your subconscious. Meditation is in my opinion the best way to stop obsessive thoughts since obsessive thoughts are really just thoughts of either the past or the future. If you are completely present you have no obsessive thoughts.

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    Kenny Lee - July 25, 2016

    Hi Matt,

    As usual, your feedback is really valuable to the readers. Meditation is probably the best way. But as one progress to master the mind, maybe other methods could help in stemming off those obsessive thinking. Thanks for reading.

    Kenny

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      Joakim - July 25, 2016

      This is soo very true. I have noticed soo many times that it is very easy to obsess over something and turn a rather easy task into something difficult just by having to many negative thoughts hampering you. Like you say the key is too simply get started and to keep going, that way you will get rid of several of these problems

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        Kenny Lee - July 26, 2016

        Hi,

        Thanks for reading. We do tend to make life difficult for ourselves at times.

        Kenny

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